I think improving your lifestyle is similar to learning a new language. You start out not knowing a lot about what it will take for success, and then you gradually learn and practice the concepts.
If you don't practice, you will not get better at it!
I'm learning American Sign Language, and I don't think its hard, but it sure does require a different way of thinking! I don't practice as much as I should, but I'm in class four days a week, so that's practice in itself. What about wellness----eating better and exercising more? Can you really expect yourself to just decide what the outcome should be (i.e. being proficient and having it be a part of everyday life), and then just do it? Not really.
You need reinforcements! A plan. A positive outlook. Support. New ideas. Flexibility. Willingness to try new things and learn new ways of doing things. Exposing yourself to the concepts and ideas is important---read articles and books about it, talk to people about your ideas and things you've tried.
Then use your wellness coach to help you navigate the process on a long-term basis. It is about getting yourself to go to the gym once and eat more vegetables today. But it's also about strategizing for how to continue in the future and improve.